Anonymous asked:

In a post from May you talked about going to the Catherine White Holman Wellness Center and gaining access to a lawyer. Why did you need a lawyer?

I’m actually not able to talk about that, as my case is on-going, but I can talk a bit more about the service. So basically, what they offer is access to someone who can give legal advice and direct you to the right resources. There are quite a few reasons why a trans* person might need to navigate the legal system, name changes, gender marker changes, discriminatory policies which prevent access to services, discrimination around employment, criminalization/arrest etc etc. 

Anonymous asked:

Hey... I just got my top surgery last month! Yay! But now I'm talking to my therapist and doctor about bottom surgery. I'm not sure how much info you have on them (or if you will be comfortable answering this) but are there any options that would allow me to achieve an erection, have sex, and eventually reach an orgasm? I've just barely brought it up with my therapist and doctor and they both said we can talk about options next time. Btw- you inspire me so much. You rock. Hell yea.

I answered an anon a little while back explaining the different bottom surgery options for trans men. Go back and read that first and if you have any more questions after, feel free to ask! I’ve done quite a bit of research and I’m totally comfortable talking about it with you. 

Congrats on your top surgery, by the way!!! :)

A couple of shirts I bought from the gender odyssey conference this weekend. The company is called Point 5cc, by and for trans* folks and their supporters. Check it out at www.point5cc.com.
Note: For those of you who are binding, the tank top is actually pretty thick and the cuts seem really binder friendly.

A couple of shirts I bought from the gender odyssey conference this weekend. The company is called Point 5cc, by and for trans* folks and their supporters. Check it out at www.point5cc.com.

Note: For those of you who are binding, the tank top is actually pretty thick and the cuts seem really binder friendly.

The second person that’ll be getting some plugs from me!! :)
This is the last draw I’m going to do for now. All the remaining plugs will be put aside for another draw later on.
For the folks getting some plugs from this draw: I’m going away for the Gender Odyssey conference this weekend, so I will be shipping them out for you early next week. 

The second person that’ll be getting some plugs from me!! :)

This is the last draw I’m going to do for now. All the remaining plugs will be put aside for another draw later on.

For the folks getting some plugs from this draw: I’m going away for the Gender Odyssey conference this weekend, so I will be shipping them out for you early next week. 

Anonymous asked:

Obviously you work out. I'm supposed to be starting T soon and I want to have some sick abs or maybe some bigger arms. Do you have any suggestions for work outs I could do?

I’ve gotten a couple questions like this before, and as I said then, I will give you my two cents on it, but I don’t really think I’m the most qualified person to tell you how to get jacked. I have type 1 diabetes, and I also have SLE, so my (plant based) diet and workouts are aimed at trying to reduce pain, keep my body healthy and feeling good, and not really about whatever muscles I get as a result. 

That being said, I do work out 4-5 times a week and I don’t mind sharing that. A good workout for me has to mean getting super sweaty, so I like to do something that’s fairly cardio intensive like cycling or sex. I have a chin-up bar that I absolutely love and you can do a few things with that: hold yourself up there and bring your knees up to your chest to work the abs, hands spread out wider on the bar for your back, shoulders and pecs, and hands closer together for your biceps/forearms. I do a lot of stretching in my back/hips for pain management and I have some free weights I use while doing squats to round out the work out.

Congrats on starting T soon buddy!! I wish you all the luck in the world, and hopefully you got one or two useful ideas from my answer. 

Anonymous asked:

I really like this girl... But she doesn't know I'm trans. I'm worried about a couple things. I know she has feelings for me. Before trying to move into a relationship, should I tell her? What if it changes things? If know that if the acceptance isn't there it will never work.. What if she says something that hurts my feelings like "wow I didn't even know, you look just like a real guy!" Ugh. I'm just worried about it. I really like her.

I think everyone kinda handles this in their own way, but this is pretty much the reality and the risk when you’re a trans* person trying to date. You pretty well said it, if the acceptance isn’t there, it will never work. I would tell her. If she says something like “wow, you look like a real guy, I never would have guessed” you have an opportunity to use that as a teaching moment and explain to her why that’s hurtful (I did a pretty thorough post on that a little while back) or decide to cut your losses and move on. I know the apprehension is super intense, especially when you like someone- but you are who you are man, be that person. There is a possibility that once you tell her, things will change, but the truth is, being trans* isn’t really something you can hide from a partner, so I would say if it’s going to change for the worse, or get weird/awkward etc, isn’t it better to find out now than when you’re even more vulnerable? 

Anonymous asked:

Do the scars on your chest bother you? I'm asking because I've seen other tumblr users being very ashamed of their scars and some that are really proud of them. I know that every scar on my body bothers me and I get really upset when people stare at me

No, the scars on my chest don’t bother me and I have no shame. I wasn’t entirely sure how I would feel about them going into the surgery, and getting used to such a huge change in your body takes some time but when I look at my chest now, I see myself in a way that I didn’t and couldn’t before. When I see the scars, I think about how fucking hard I worked and everything I went through to get them- and I’m proud. The other part of that is that being pretty heavily tattooed means that I’m already used to people staring at me and making assumptions about the kind of person I am, and I really just don’t give a fuck. 

Anonymous asked:

What's up with the "clit growth" once you start T? I know it can be different for every trans guy; what's your take on it?

I’m not entirely sure what you’re asking me, could you be a little more specific? What do you want to know about it? 

Anonymous asked:

Hi there. I just have a question and I hope I don't ask it in a weird or bothersome way. I've been on T for only a few months and I'm scheduled for gyno visit soon... What's gonna happen? Do you know or is it sort of unique to each person? Oh wait also I'm 17 and sexually active... Just in case that changes anything lol. Btw u really inspire me to be myself and live how I want to live without being scared.

First of all, it’s really awesome that you’re taking charge of your body and your health care. Gyno appointments can be tough, especially for gender non-conforming folks, but they’re still important. Looking back, I don’t think I was aware enough of my body or myself at your age, so good on you.

It should really just be a standard check up, pap test type thing, unless you’re having specific concerns. T causes some folks to become less lubricated, so make sure your gyno knows you’re on T, and to use lube if necessary. Again, with being sexually active, it’s just important to mention it to your doctor, and to be tested for s.t.i’s regularly.

Keep being you! :)

quantumfemme

pluralfloral:

I want to see fat women portrayed as desirable & sexually autonomous

I want to see trans women portrayed as desirable & sexually autonomous

I want to see women of color portrayed as desirable & sexually autonomous

I want to see women with disabilities portrayed as desirable & sexually autonomous

It shouldn’t be considered a favor to be found attractive, & it sure as hell isnt a compliment to be fetishized. I want more fucking media that acknowledges that. fuck.