This is actually one of the least invasive, most polite ways I’ve been asked about this. I don’t mind talking about my junk or surgeries when I’m asked about it in a respectful way, particularly here since this is a blog about my transition and I think it’s so important that we share our experiences.
I haven’t had bottom surgery yet but I’ve been packing more and more lately, it seems to matter a lot more to me than it did before top surgery. I have been researching surgeons, types of bottom surgery and techniques for about 6 months now and I’m hoping to have surgery before I’m 30 (which means I have a couple of years left to continue my research, fight for funding/insurance coverage/savings and make it happen).
I have done a lot of reading, a lot of research into results, complications, and importantly, the experiences of other trans*men who have had either the metoidioplasty or phalloplasty. Hung Jury has a great compilation of varying experiences, and I’ve also been lucky enough to have people in my life willing to share their experiences and results with me in the flesh and I honestly think that’s the best way to make a fully informed decision about what options are best for me and my body.
I’m currently in the process of waiting for my appointment with the gatekeepers (the psychiatrists I need letters from) and getting my research together.