Anonymous asked:

Im sure this is none of my fuckin business but Im just curious if youve gotten your bottom surgery yet and how you felt about it. And if not when youre planning on getting it?

This is actually one of the least invasive, most polite ways I’ve been asked about this. I don’t mind talking about my junk or surgeries when I’m asked about it in a respectful way, particularly here since this is a blog about my transition and I think it’s so important that we share our experiences.  

I haven’t had bottom surgery yet but I’ve been packing more and more lately, it seems to matter a lot more to me than it did before top surgery. I have been researching surgeons, types of bottom surgery and techniques for about 6 months now and I’m hoping to have surgery before I’m 30 (which means I have a couple of years left to continue my research, fight for funding/insurance coverage/savings and make it happen). 

I have done a lot of reading, a lot of research into results, complications, and importantly, the experiences of other trans*men who have had either the metoidioplasty or phalloplasty. Hung Jury has a great compilation of varying experiences, and I’ve also been lucky enough to have people in my life willing to share their experiences and results with me in the flesh and I honestly think that’s the best way to make a fully informed decision about what options are best for me and my body. 

I’m currently in the process of waiting for my appointment with the gatekeepers (the psychiatrists I need letters from) and getting my research together. 

Anonymous asked:

hey I just wanted to know the effects that testosterone has on the vagina. I heard it makes the clitoris grow longer, but does it look much different? I'm sorry if this is an awkward question

It depends. Some folks get a lot of growth, others don’t get much, but I would say you’re better off expecting some changes.

Anonymous asked:

In a post from May you talked about going to the Catherine White Holman Wellness Center and gaining access to a lawyer. Why did you need a lawyer?

I’m actually not able to talk about that, as my case is on-going, but I can talk a bit more about the service. So basically, what they offer is access to someone who can give legal advice and direct you to the right resources. There are quite a few reasons why a trans* person might need to navigate the legal system, name changes, gender marker changes, discriminatory policies which prevent access to services, discrimination around employment, criminalization/arrest etc etc. 

Anonymous asked:

Hey... I just got my top surgery last month! Yay! But now I'm talking to my therapist and doctor about bottom surgery. I'm not sure how much info you have on them (or if you will be comfortable answering this) but are there any options that would allow me to achieve an erection, have sex, and eventually reach an orgasm? I've just barely brought it up with my therapist and doctor and they both said we can talk about options next time. Btw- you inspire me so much. You rock. Hell yea.

I answered an anon a little while back explaining the different bottom surgery options for trans men. Go back and read that first and if you have any more questions after, feel free to ask! I’ve done quite a bit of research and I’m totally comfortable talking about it with you. 

Congrats on your top surgery, by the way!!! :)

A couple of shirts I bought from the gender odyssey conference this weekend. The company is called Point 5cc, by and for trans* folks and their supporters. Check it out at www.point5cc.com.
Note: For those of you who are binding, the tank top is actually pretty thick and the cuts seem really binder friendly.

A couple of shirts I bought from the gender odyssey conference this weekend. The company is called Point 5cc, by and for trans* folks and their supporters. Check it out at www.point5cc.com.

Note: For those of you who are binding, the tank top is actually pretty thick and the cuts seem really binder friendly.

The second person that’ll be getting some plugs from me!! :)
This is the last draw I’m going to do for now. All the remaining plugs will be put aside for another draw later on.
For the folks getting some plugs from this draw: I’m going away for the Gender Odyssey conference this weekend, so I will be shipping them out for you early next week. 

The second person that’ll be getting some plugs from me!! :)

This is the last draw I’m going to do for now. All the remaining plugs will be put aside for another draw later on.

For the folks getting some plugs from this draw: I’m going away for the Gender Odyssey conference this weekend, so I will be shipping them out for you early next week. 

Anonymous asked:

Obviously you work out. I'm supposed to be starting T soon and I want to have some sick abs or maybe some bigger arms. Do you have any suggestions for work outs I could do?

I’ve gotten a couple questions like this before, and as I said then, I will give you my two cents on it, but I don’t really think I’m the most qualified person to tell you how to get jacked. I have type 1 diabetes, and I also have SLE, so my (plant based) diet and workouts are aimed at trying to reduce pain, keep my body healthy and feeling good, and not really about whatever muscles I get as a result. 

That being said, I do work out 4-5 times a week and I don’t mind sharing that. A good workout for me has to mean getting super sweaty, so I like to do something that’s fairly cardio intensive like cycling or sex. I have a chin-up bar that I absolutely love and you can do a few things with that: hold yourself up there and bring your knees up to your chest to work the abs, hands spread out wider on the bar for your back, shoulders and pecs, and hands closer together for your biceps/forearms. I do a lot of stretching in my back/hips for pain management and I have some free weights I use while doing squats to round out the work out.

Congrats on starting T soon buddy!! I wish you all the luck in the world, and hopefully you got one or two useful ideas from my answer. 

Anonymous asked:

I really like this girl... But she doesn't know I'm trans. I'm worried about a couple things. I know she has feelings for me. Before trying to move into a relationship, should I tell her? What if it changes things? If know that if the acceptance isn't there it will never work.. What if she says something that hurts my feelings like "wow I didn't even know, you look just like a real guy!" Ugh. I'm just worried about it. I really like her.

I think everyone kinda handles this in their own way, but this is pretty much the reality and the risk when you’re a trans* person trying to date. You pretty well said it, if the acceptance isn’t there, it will never work. I would tell her. If she says something like “wow, you look like a real guy, I never would have guessed” you have an opportunity to use that as a teaching moment and explain to her why that’s hurtful (I did a pretty thorough post on that a little while back) or decide to cut your losses and move on. I know the apprehension is super intense, especially when you like someone- but you are who you are man, be that person. There is a possibility that once you tell her, things will change, but the truth is, being trans* isn’t really something you can hide from a partner, so I would say if it’s going to change for the worse, or get weird/awkward etc, isn’t it better to find out now than when you’re even more vulnerable?