Laverne Cox, Keynote address, Creating Change 2014

This is such an important thing to say, though.

A lot of people are acknowledging this as a very powerful sound bite, but take a minute to really consider the context of this.

Every time you misgender a trans person, you are putting their lives in danger.

You aren’t just hurting our feelings - and there is nothing “just” about hurt feelings for people prone to suicide - you risk outing us to people we may not want to be outed to.

It opens us up to harassment, discrimination, and even assault. We could lose our jobs, our families, and our livelihood.

Every time you intentionally misgender a trans person, you tell us that you consider us to be less than animals.



Anonymous asked:

Im sure this is none of my fuckin business but Im just curious if youve gotten your bottom surgery yet and how you felt about it. And if not when youre planning on getting it?

This is actually one of the least invasive, most polite ways I’ve been asked about this. I don’t mind talking about my junk or surgeries when I’m asked about it in a respectful way, particularly here since this is a blog about my transition and I think it’s so important that we share our experiences.  

I haven’t had bottom surgery yet but I’ve been packing more and more lately, it seems to matter a lot more to me than it did before top surgery. I have been researching surgeons, types of bottom surgery and techniques for about 6 months now and I’m hoping to have surgery before I’m 30 (which means I have a couple of years left to continue my research, fight for funding/insurance coverage/savings and make it happen). 

I have done a lot of reading, a lot of research into results, complications, and importantly, the experiences of other trans*men who have had either the metoidioplasty or phalloplasty. Hung Jury has a great compilation of varying experiences, and I’ve also been lucky enough to have people in my life willing to share their experiences and results with me in the flesh and I honestly think that’s the best way to make a fully informed decision about what options are best for me and my body. 

I’m currently in the process of waiting for my appointment with the gatekeepers (the psychiatrists I need letters from) and getting my research together.