Laverne Cox, Keynote address, Creating Change 2014

This is such an important thing to say, though.

A lot of people are acknowledging this as a very powerful sound bite, but take a minute to really consider the context of this.

Every time you misgender a trans person, you are putting their lives in danger.

You aren’t just hurting our feelings - and there is nothing “just” about hurt feelings for people prone to suicide - you risk outing us to people we may not want to be outed to.

It opens us up to harassment, discrimination, and even assault. We could lose our jobs, our families, and our livelihood.

Every time you intentionally misgender a trans person, you tell us that you consider us to be less than animals.



Anonymous asked:

Im sure this is none of my fuckin business but Im just curious if youve gotten your bottom surgery yet and how you felt about it. And if not when youre planning on getting it?

This is actually one of the least invasive, most polite ways I’ve been asked about this. I don’t mind talking about my junk or surgeries when I’m asked about it in a respectful way, particularly here since this is a blog about my transition and I think it’s so important that we share our experiences.  

I haven’t had bottom surgery yet but I’ve been packing more and more lately, it seems to matter a lot more to me than it did before top surgery. I have been researching surgeons, types of bottom surgery and techniques for about 6 months now and I’m hoping to have surgery before I’m 30 (which means I have a couple of years left to continue my research, fight for funding/insurance coverage/savings and make it happen). 

I have done a lot of reading, a lot of research into results, complications, and importantly, the experiences of other trans*men who have had either the metoidioplasty or phalloplasty. Hung Jury has a great compilation of varying experiences, and I’ve also been lucky enough to have people in my life willing to share their experiences and results with me in the flesh and I honestly think that’s the best way to make a fully informed decision about what options are best for me and my body. 

I’m currently in the process of waiting for my appointment with the gatekeepers (the psychiatrists I need letters from) and getting my research together. 

Anonymous asked:

hey I just wanted to know the effects that testosterone has on the vagina. I heard it makes the clitoris grow longer, but does it look much different? I'm sorry if this is an awkward question

It depends. Some folks get a lot of growth, others don’t get much, but I would say you’re better off expecting some changes.

Anonymous asked:

In a post from May you talked about going to the Catherine White Holman Wellness Center and gaining access to a lawyer. Why did you need a lawyer?

I’m actually not able to talk about that, as my case is on-going, but I can talk a bit more about the service. So basically, what they offer is access to someone who can give legal advice and direct you to the right resources. There are quite a few reasons why a trans* person might need to navigate the legal system, name changes, gender marker changes, discriminatory policies which prevent access to services, discrimination around employment, criminalization/arrest etc etc. 

Anonymous asked:

Hey... I just got my top surgery last month! Yay! But now I'm talking to my therapist and doctor about bottom surgery. I'm not sure how much info you have on them (or if you will be comfortable answering this) but are there any options that would allow me to achieve an erection, have sex, and eventually reach an orgasm? I've just barely brought it up with my therapist and doctor and they both said we can talk about options next time. Btw- you inspire me so much. You rock. Hell yea.

I answered an anon a little while back explaining the different bottom surgery options for trans men. Go back and read that first and if you have any more questions after, feel free to ask! I’ve done quite a bit of research and I’m totally comfortable talking about it with you. 

Congrats on your top surgery, by the way!!! :)